Studies of twins separated when very young and reunited as adults have presented some interesting challenges to both the nurture and nature arguments regarding how much is “just the way I am” and how much is a result of one’s upbringing and socioeconomic situation.
When it comes to what has been called the “genetic lottery”, it certainly seems that there are many things about us as individuals that are fixed and that come out in us because of nature and despite the kind of nurturing we did or didn’t receive. Comparing much of what we are as individuals to the cards we’re dealt in a card game seems fairly fitting.
With this in mind, I like what Robert Louis Stevenson is credited with saying: “Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but of playing a poor hand well.” Or, to quote Jawaharlal Nehru: “Life is like a game of cards. The hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play it is free will.”